The year was 2023.

I was sitting in my apartment alone.

Outside, life moved on, families laughing, dogs barking, cars passing.

But in that room, time stood still.

The laptop glowed on my face, lighting up a dream that had just been torn apart.

We had just fired our development team. Over a year gone. $15,000 burned. Days of stress and anxiety, all for nothing.

The weight in my chest felt like being dragged underwater, drowning in the realization of how much had vanished.

In my mind, we were still building the world's best chat app.

In reality, we didn’t even have a product, just an expensive illusion.

What started out as a dream 4 years earlier, was now a nightmare of wasted time, broken code, and silence from my partner.

I thought I was building an app. But really, life was trying to build me.

Those years felt like ping-pong between excitement and hopelessness. I read every book and lecture I could find, from Think and Grow Rich to Neville Goddard to endless talks on attraction and assumption.

I knew my strongest vision would become a fact if I kept persisting.

So what went wrong?

Why didn’t it "manifest"?

Why did I feel on top of the world one moment, but the second a challenge appeared, I doubted the vision again?

You’ve felt this too.

Excitement one second. Uncertainty, second-guessing, and anxiety the next.

Until finally, the project you poured everything into crumbles, and you're left wondering if maybe you’re just not cut out for this.

But what if the collapse wasn't failure at all?

What if it was the doorway you'd been blind to the whole time?

The Real Battle

Most entrepreneurs/solopreneurs, when faced with a setback, get pulled into emotional spirals.

You spend months building a course. Launch day comes, only 3 people buy.

You pitch a dream client, feel the spark of excitement, and get a cold "not interested".

Or, as in my case, you invest $15K into app development, only to be handed broken, unfinished code.

Instead of pausing to investigate what's really happening, you get trapped believing "I'm not cut out for this, maybe only certain people are meant for success", which creates that sinking feeling of inadequacy, which makes you either abandon the project completely or desperately try to control every outcome to prove you belong.

You think the problem is out "there".

But the real battle is inward.

The more you get caught up in emotional spirals, the less space you have for clarity and solutions. Your mind is like a cluttered garage, when it's full of overthinking, there's no room for insights to emerge.

What if your biggest failures aren't punishment for your inadequacy, but course corrections from an intelligence that sees further than you can?

During that cold, dark evening in my apartment, my mind was like a cluttered garage.

But the insight that came changed everything.

What Changed Everything

There's an intelligence driving the car you’re sitting in.

So why don’t you feel safe?

The reason is simple, you’re reacting to every bump emotionally, through your wants for:

• approval,
• control,
• and security.

That voice asking "what will others think?" exposes your craving for validation.

That urge to micromanage every variable exposes your fear of surrender.

That thought "what if something goes wrong?" exposes your obsession with threats.

Most people think the goal is to eliminate these feelings.

But fighting your emotions is what keeps you trapped.

Neither reacting nor ignoring is the answer.

The answer is accepting.

But here’s the part no one tells you.

To remain silent and calm, to trust the car to take you through the journey, you must first accept the roadblocks and bumps.

The more you try to control outcomes, the more resistance you create.

The more you surrender to what’s happening, the more solutions reveal themselves.

Most people think letting go is weakness, like giving up and dying. It's the reverse. Like being reborn and falling back into the arms of something bigger. Something secure.

Just like when you were a kid, playing that game of falling backwards, trusting the person behind you would catch you.

Looking back, I can see that my fighting created endless struggle and anxiety.

Today, I'm flowing with life with ease and clarity, watching unexpected breakthroughs happen naturally.

There's one thing that changes everything.

But first, let me tell you a story.

When Everything Collapsed

Late afternoon, 2023.

On my screen was an email from the dev team. After a year of work, they were done. The app unfinished. The money gone. And now they said we were the problem.

For hours, silence stretched between my partner and me. We were devastated, years of fighting, and now our dream was in the trash

The thought that kept repeating: "We were so close to releasing our first app."

But that wasn't even the worst part.

In my chest, I felt panic. My head was filled with question marks, no room for clear thinking.

Game over felt like a knife in my chest. Bleeding but not dying.

Maybe you've felt this too, that moment when everything you've worked for crumbles, and you're left wondering if you should just quit.

But then something within me said, "Take some days off."

Instead of fighting the anger I had toward the team, I decided to let it go, understanding it might be for the better.

After some days of resting and letting go, ideas and insights appeared. I thought I’d hit rock bottom. Turns out, it was the foundation for something better.

We decided to change the concept for the app and focus on voice messaging rather than just an average chat app. We'd seen so many people using it more and more, including us.

I didn't know it yet, but that was the starting point of something better. A surrender experiment that would take us, in flow, toward not just a released app, but a completely different way of living.

Fast forward to today: we're launching in weeks. We secured funding the banker said we "shouldn't have qualified for.

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Gone through obstacles that would normally throw us off for weeks.

Instead of fighting every bump, we move through the road with ease and clarity, trusting the intelligence driving the car.

The development team wasn't the enemy, nor was any other hardship we faced. They just showed us what we didn't want, and what belief and emotion we had to let go of internally in order to level up and keep the car going.

But how do you actually do this when you're in the middle of an emotional spiral?

There's a simple process I discovered that changes everything in minutes, not weeks.

The Flow Method

Most people think growth comes from stacking positivity on pain. But what you bury grows roots. As Carl Jung said: "No tree can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell."

Looking back, I see how my own roots stretched through hell so the tree could rise.

To make your tree grow, you can't just water it with positivity and motivation. You'll have to dig out the weeds underneath the soil and make room for it to bloom and flow naturally.

Your negative reactions to challenges aren't punishments, but signals pointing out where the weeds are.

1) Trigger Recognition

No matter the circumstance - relationship, business, lifestyle, or health - you'll face challenges. You'll react emotionally.

The first step is simple: pause when you react and recognize the trigger.

Are you feeling anger, fear, doubt, irritation?

This is your signal pointing out where the weeds are.

Write it down - on paper, your phone, or computer. The important thing is becoming aware of the emotions and keeping them visible.

What you normally resist within is actually guidance pointing you toward what needs attention.

2) Welcome the Trigger

Now that you are aware of the trigger, and have it written down, it's time to welcome it.

The reason why I used to spiral, when facing setbacks with the app — anxiety, stress, and uncertainty — was because I made the mistake of fighting my feelings and thoughts, instead of welcoming them.

You might wonder: "But if I welcome them, won’t they take me over?"

Welcoming doesn’t mean you become the emotion. It means you stop wrestling with it.

It’s like the surface of water. The more you thrash around, the more ripples you create. But the moment you stop, it settles on its own.

But how do you actually welcome something that feels like it could swallow you whole?

How do you stop thrashing in the water?

3) Accept the Trigger

I’ve been releasing triggers for years, making peace with different parts of myself. And one common solution kept showing up is: acceptance.

The first reaction I had when we received that email from the development team was pure disbelief:

"Wait… THEY say they can't work with us?"

The irony hit me immediately. For months, deep down, we'd felt we couldn't work with them, but we stayed, trapped by the money we'd already invested.

So when they finally flipped it and said we were the problem, part of me wanted to punch the screen. The very thing I was afraid to admit, they handed to me on a silver platter.

But how do you accept a situation when part of you wants to throw the computer out the window?

How do you accept emotions when you’re so entangled in them that the only way out feels like a bare-knuckle fight?

Acceptance doesn’t mean you approve of what happened.

It doesn’t mean you excuse the people involved or pretend it didn't hurt.

Acceptance is facing reality without conditions.

It's saying: "This happened. I don’t have to fight it. I can let it be what it is"

From that space, forgiveness becomes possible and letting go becomes natural.

Because the more you resist, the tighter the grip.

The moment you accept, the grip loosens on its own.

4) Release the Trigger

Take a few deep breaths. Feel the energy inside you without judging it.

Releasing doesn’t mean pushing it away, it means giving it space to pass through on its own.

Think of it like holding your breath in anger. The moment you exhale, the tension leaves your body. The same happens with emotions, once you stop gripping them, they naturally move on.

"But what if it comes back?"

That's where the process repeats. Recognition is always the most important step.

At first you’ll write it down, welcome it, and accept it in order to let it go. But over time, you'll recognize it faster and release it in real time — without even needing to write. Each time it shows up, it gets weaker, until eventually it stops showing up at all.

For example, one of our biggest triggers used to be controlling the app launch timing. We'd set a specific release date, announce it publicly, then feel crushing anxiety when unexpected development issues appeared.

The resistance was intense - stress, tension, that familiar panic when reality didn't match our timeline.

But with our current app, when major challenges appeared that could have delayed us for months, instead of fighting the timeline, we recognized the trigger, welcomed the uncertainty, and accepted that the timing might be different than planned.

The result? We navigated obstacles that used to throw us off for weeks in just hours. Looking back, the delays actually improved the final product. What felt like setbacks were perfect timing in disguise.

Looking back at my journey building this app, I can see how different things feel now. Challenges that used to spiral me for weeks, we move through in hours.

Each time you practice this, the triggers don't just get weaker — you also build a habit of letting go effortlessly. And that habit carries over into every area of life: business, relationships, health, all of it.

What looks like weakness when you accept your fear is actually the deepest strength you’ll ever know.

And the moment you practice it, everything shifts faster than you expect.

The Path Forward

You want to feel calm regardless of circumstances. Knowing what to do without forcing. No longer be controlled by reactions but have confidence you're being guided by something bigger.

But every day you fight your experience is another day you stay stuck - waking up anxious, going to bed worried, caught in the same exhausting loop.

You can keep fighting your emotions when challenges arise, losing weeks to spirals, staying detached to the intelligence trying to guide you.

Or learn triggers as guidance, navigate challenges in hours instead of weeks, trust the journey.

Start today.

Write down your triggers. Stay open and welcome the feelings.

If you want to know which resistance pattern — approval, control, or security — is keeping you in spirals, take this 1-minute quiz

Your breakdowns aren't breakdowns, they're breakthroughs waiting to be recognized

Flow with you,

Tomas