What if freedom came not from holding on, but from letting go?

Not of possessions or responsibilities, but of the need to control every detail.

Have you ever tried to control things like:

• A project at work, stressing over every detail.
• The weather ruining your plans, checking the forecast obsessively as if it’ll change.
• A friend not replying immediately, spiraling into assumptions about their silence.
• Success, obsessing over when and how it will happen.

Most of the things we try to control are actually beyond our control.

Take a project, for example.

You create a detailed plan with every step mapped out. But as soon as you start, unexpected challenges appear, turning your 10-step plan into 15.

Instead of obsessing over the entire journey, what if you focused on just the next step?

It’s like driving a car at night.

The headlights only illuminate a small stretch of road ahead, but that’s all you need to keep moving forward.

Trusting the process, one step at a time, keeps you from being overwhelmed by the darkness beyond.

What if you applied that same mindset to life?

Why is letting go so hard?

The need to control stems from the ego’s fear of uncertainty. The ego craves safety, but instead of creating peace, it creates stress, resistance, and internal unrest.

When Control Costs You Peace

We’ve all felt the urge of trying to control life.

Whether it’s relationships, careers, or how others perceive us.

Control might feel like security, but the tighter we grip, the more life slips through our fingers.

Think about the last time things didn’t go according to plan:

• A conversation didn’t unfold as you rehearsed it.
• A work project spiraled despite careful planning.
• Someone you care about acted in ways you didn’t expect.

How did that make you feel?

Frustrated?

Stuck?

Like everything was slipping out of your hands?

Control pulls you into constant battles with things you can’t change, leaving you drained, anxious, and disconnected.

But what if, instead of draining your energy on worry, you redirected it into trust and flow?

Surrender: The Power of Letting Go

Surrender isn’t giving up, it’s freeing yourself from the illusion of control and moving with life’s natural rhythm.

It’s like swimming upstream in a river.

The harder you fight the current, the more exhausted you become, yet you make little progress. But when you let go and flow with the current, you’re carried forward with ease.

I had no prior experience. I never considered myself a “good writer,” and while my English is decent, it’s far from professional. In short, I started as a complete beginner.

Over the years, I’ve learned how the ego’s need for control fuels resistance and stress. The ego fears uncertainty, but in trying to protect us, it often creates unnecessary roadblocks instead.

When I began writing, I set a big goal: to become a professional digital writer.

I chose not to let the goal overwhelm me. Rather than stressing over every step, I focused on the journey, like car headlights illuminating just enough to keep moving forward.

Each week, I focus on doing my best: writing, learning, and improving.

So, why does letting go feel impossible?

Because control gives us the illusion of safety. We cling to it, hoping to avoid uncertainty, failure, or disappointment. But in reality, it keeps us trapped in negative spirals that are hard to escape.

Let’s explore the surrender shift and discover what happens when you let go.

The Surrender Shift: How to Free Your Mind, Detach, and Rise

So far, we have discussed how our ego clings to control, driven by its fear of uncertainty and desire for safety. This need to micromanage our lives often creates resistance, stress, and chaos, leaving us disconnected from the natural flow of life.

Let Go of the Mind (Release Thoughts, Emotions, and Feelings)

The first step to reconnecting with the flow is recognizing that the need to control is all mental, a cluttered pool of thoughts, emotions, and fears:

• I am not a good writer —> Doubt
• What if I make a mistake and everyone judges me? —> Fear
• I need to plan for every possible outcome —> Overthinking

These patterns create resistance, pulling us away from the ease of flow. Recognizing them is the first step toward letting go and freeing the mind.

In my latest newsletter, I dive deeper into how we don’t actually live in reality but escape into a mental simulation instead. Read it here: https://evolvee.me/posts/3-simple-steps-to-stop-battling-your-mind-and-find-inner-freedom​

The next step is understanding that thoughts are fleeting, they only feel real because we've acted on them for so long.

But what if your thoughts shifted?

• I am a good writer, and words always flow naturally —> Confidence
• Failing is normal. I learn and grow from it —> Courage
• I trust the journey and all its steps —> Trust

With empowering thoughts like these, life begins to flow naturally.

Challenges become opportunities.

Solutions reveal themselves.

Progress feels inevitable.

A Personal Lesson in Surrender

A few years ago, I hit my lowest point.

No stable income, an empty bank account, and unanswered job applications left me overwhelmed.

I realized worrying and controlling outcomes wasn’t helping, it was only adding resistance.

So, I experimented:

I surrendered.

I stopped worrying.

Told myself I could handle going broke, and trusted the process.

Two days later, I got two job offers.

It wasn’t just surrender that changed everything, it was letting go of worry and trusting that the solution would come at the right time.

We tend to obsess over problems that aren’t even real yet, creating resistance instead of clarity. But when I surrendered, I realized that most of the time, solutions appear just when we truly need them, not when we stress over them.

Surrender as a Path to Freedom

Surrender isn’t about giving up, it’s about trusting that life will catch you when you let go.

Remember the childhood game of falling back into someone’s arms?

It always started with hesitation, doubt, fear of falling, but ended with the relief of being caught.

When we cling too tightly to outcomes, it’s like refusing to fall, we lose sight of what’s next and exhaust ourselves trying to hold on.

When I decided to surrender and release my worries, it felt just like that game.

At first, I was hesitant and unsure if things would work out. But as I leaned into the process, I realized something incredible: the solution had always been there, waiting for me to trust the timing and take the next step.

When you release the grip on your thoughts and emotions, you create space for the next step: surrendering in action.

Let’s see how letting go of the outcome can help you approach your goals with clarity and trust.

Let Go of the Outcome (Surrender Your Goals and Gain Clarity)

You’re working on a goal or project:

• Launching a small online business.
• Writing your first book.
• Creating an online course.

You’ve planned everything down to the smallest detail: tasks, milestones, deadlines. But somewhere along the way, doubt creeps in:

• "How will I handle future steps?"
• "What if I don’t have enough resources: time, money, or energy, to finish this?"
• "What if all this effort turns out to be a waste?"

Do you see the pattern here? These are all future problems, existing in your mind, not reality.

The Truth About Worry

The mental battle to control every outcome is what stops most people from progressing. The future worry, overthinking, and constant resistance make it nearly impossible to move forward with ease.

To this point, you’ve learned that, the need to control is all in your mind and that thoughts are fleeting and only feel real because you’ve given them power.

When you stop trying to control every step, something shifts. Solutions begin to reveal themselves. Challenges become opportunities. Progress feels inevitable.

Focus on the Step Ahead, Not the Shadows Beyond

I’ve been working on a project, a mobile app, for more than 5 years without success so far.

While the external success hasn’t come yet, the internal growth and transformation I’ve experienced along the way have been invaluable.

The project has gone through countless iterations and failures, but today, the first phase of this reshaped idea is finally ready for launch.

A year ago, we faced a major setback. A previous version of the app failed due to a team that couldn’t deliver. With little money left, we pivoted, changed the concept, and invested our last funds into a design.

At the time, doubts crept in: How will we fund development after design? What if this fails too?

But from years of experience, we'd learned the power of surrender.

Instead of worrying about a future problem that didn’t exist yet, we focused on the step in front of us. We trusted that the solution for the next phase would come at the right time.

And it did.

After finishing the design, we faced the next step: planning the app’s development. Somehow, we secured an investment, something that had seemed impossible just two months earlier.

If we had let fear of the future control us, we might never have taken the leap to invest in the design phase.

Our journey with this app is a testament to what surrender can do. If you're interested, check out the project here: https://memochat.net/​

When you surrender to the present moment and focus on the step ahead, you open yourself to clarity, flow, and unexpected opportunities.

The lesson is simple: trust the process.

When you let go of the need to control outcomes, clarity emerges, and the next step reveals itself in ways you never imagined.

Here are 5 ways you can embrace surrender and rise to your fullest potential, not just in your goals, but in your mental health as well.

Let Go to Rise (Why Surrender is the Path to True Freedom)

The level of surrender in your life determines how far you’ll go, not just with your goals, but with your mental health.

Let's walk through 5 key steps to help you let go and trust the process:

1) You’re always where you need to be.

You’re always where you need to be.

Life unfolds perfectly, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. The challenges you face are often guiding you toward growth.

When doubt creeps in, ask yourself: Can I actually do something about this right now?

If the answer is no, consider this: resisting what you can’t control only creates more stress.

Isn’t it better to let go and trust, even when it’s hard?

Trust doesn’t mean you agree with everything, it simply means you choose peace over resistance.

Your path is exactly as it should be. Even when it feels wrong, trust that everything is unfolding for a reason. What happens now is what needs to happen.

2) The present moment holds the answers.

Clarity comes when you let go of obsessing over the future or regretting the past. Focus on what’s in front of you now:

• If it’s a project, focus on the task at hand.
• If it’s a challenge, face it step by step.
• If it’s uncertainty, focus on what you can control.

At this point, you already know that a future step is not real and should be saved for when the time comes.

Focus on what’s in front of you, like a car's headlights illuminating just the next stretch of road.

The present moment is all there is, everything else is a mental concept.

Trust that life unfolds perfectly. The answers will arrive exactly when you’re ready to receive them.

3) Surrender creates flow.

Life is in constant flow. You can't stop it, only interrupt it.

Interruptions create resistance, leading to stress and negative emotions.

If you can step out of your own way, by letting go of the mind, as we’ve discussed, you allow life to flow without interruption.

The result?

Things will unfold more easily.

Solutions will appear when you least expect them.

You’ll feel luckier.

Challenges won’t overwhelm you but become manageable.

Flow with life, and everything unfolds in your favor. Resist it, and you will face hardship.

4) Let your mind reflect your intentions.

"I am always on the right path"

If you truly believed every step you took was right, would you still worry about the future? Probably not.

We’ve already explored how worry is just a mental projection, a future concept in our mind. Ask yourself:

• If I can pay for today’s needs, why stress about what might happen in eight weeks?
• Is this problem even real, or am I creating it in my head?

The truth is simple: you are always on the right path.

Worrying about future steps only pulls you away from the present.

Yesterday, while driving, I spiraled into thoughts about next month’s expenses, even though I have enough for today. That worry disrupted my peace, searching for solutions to a problem that didn’t exist yet. Then it hit me: if today’s needs are met, why lose peace over tomorrow?

You are always on the right path. Trust it.

5) The journey is the destination.

"Every day, in every way, my life becomes better and better"

Every step forward, even the messy ones, contributes to your growth. You might not see the purpose of each step immediately, but over time, the journey reveals why they all mattered.

Trust the process and find meaning in each moment.

You’ll never achieve perfection in one giant leap, but perfection unfolds in the small, consistent improvements you make each day.

Focus on today’s lessons and the step directly in front of you.

With each small action, you’ll start to see how, truly, every day in every way, your life becomes better and better.

Take these five affirmations with you as a daily reminder to let go and trust the process:

1. "I am exactly where I need to be. Right time and right place."
2. "Everything happens in perfect timing for me."
3. "Everything always works out in my favor."
4. "I am always on the right path."
5. "Every day, in every way, my life becomes better and better."

Whenever you feel resistance or the urge to control, take a moment. Breathe deeply.

Read or listen to these affirmations, and let them guide you back to surrender and flow.

I've created a 5 min audio file with these affirmations to help you let go and surrender to the flow of life:

​Click here to download the affirmations audio file​

I hope this letter brought you clarity and flow.

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

See you in the next letter.

– Tomas

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