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The only way to become truly happy is to (1) understand that it can't be found in objects, (2) accept life as it is without any resistance, (3) realize happiness is your natural state, revealed when you stop seeking.

Now, I know what you might think:

"Have you ever seen a sad person driving a jetski… didn't think so."

This letter is for those who want to find true permanent happiness that lasts. Not the one the comes and goes dependent on what you have, get or reach.

I've been on both spectrums of the search, from seeking happiness in achievements to discovering it in awareness.

Everything you've been taught about happiness is wrong and the truth is more surprising than you think.

Why Chasing Never Lasts

Most people chase happiness in the external world — money, success, relationships, status.

And a lot of them reach it and become happy.

You've probably been there too.

Getting a new phone. Landing a job you've been wanting. Being in love with your dream partner.

"Ohh I feel so happy ..", you tell yourself.

But after a while it fades away. Like a sugar rush that crashes just as quickly as it came, leaving you chasing the next thing.

The problem isn't chasing happiness. That's normal. We all want to be happy.

The problem is thinking that you'll get it from the objective world.

You've been wired since a young age thinking that happiness always was in "the thing".

The Christmas gift. The birthday present. The 2-week vacation with family to Create.

All of these things feel amazing for a moment. But underneath, they create something most people never notice. I call it the Waiting Room. And once you see it, you’ll notice you’ve been living there for years.

The Waiting Room

Most people live an endless cycle of chasing, achieving and disappointment.

It's that empty feeling three weeks after buying what you wanted, when the excitement is gone and you're already looking for the next thing. You're stuck in a loop where you postpone being happy for a future goal or achievement.

You think you're just chasing happiness, but you're actually becoming someone who can't feel satisfied with anything. Each hit needs to be bigger. Each achievement more impressive.

But the emptiness after gets deeper.

While you're waiting for the next purchase, promotion, or person to complete you, your actual life is happening right now. And you're missing it. Spending years sometimes, living in a waiting room, hoping one day your number gets called.

How many more years of this?

Chasing. Receiving. Feeling empty. Repeat?

6 months? 1 year? 3 years?

The truth is: the happiness you get from buying what you wanted is just a glimpse of something deeper — your innate state.

What if you could be happy before reaching your goal?

Living from happiness instead of chasing it.

Imagine already feeling at ease, peaceful, and happy along the way.

The process wouldn't just be easier, it would be more enjoyable. And when you finally arrive at that destination, your existing happiness would only be amplified.

Before I show you how to uncover your natural happiness, you need to see the hidden trap that keeps you chasing it.

Seven Years in the Waiting Room

Back in 2018, my friend and I used to dream about building a world-dominating mobile app. Almost every day we’d meet up, grab food or drinks, and drift into the future together:

• "launching a top mobile app"
• "being rich AF, doing whatever we wanted"
• "traveling the world"
• "running successful businesses with hit apps"

you get the point.

But there was a catch we didn't see coming.

The problem was that we postponed life completely, waiting for that moment to come.

We thought it would take max a year to get there, but life had another plan.

It's been 7 years since, and we haven't even launched the app yet.

Seven years of chasing shadows.

But the good part is that we finally found our true innate happiness, and it changed everything. And the app is launching in a couple of week. If you want to be among the first to try it and get 1 month free premium, you can sign up here: https://memochat.net.​

So what changed?

We realized through years of experience that the happiness we were seeking was already within us.

Most people think that happiness comes after achieving or receiving. Actually, it shows itself when the restless activity of seeking pauses.

What does that man?

When a desire is fulfilled, the activity of seeking comes to an end for a moment. In that pause, the happiness that is always present in the background of experience is revealed.

It’s easy to miss if you're not paying attention.

You mistakenly think it came from the object, but in fact it is our own being shining.

It's like the sun on a cloudy day. When the clouds move, we think the sun just came out. But really, it was shining the whole time. That's how happiness works, it's always there, we just notice it when the seeking stops.

Happiness is the sun.

The clouds are our desires.

When a desire is fulfilled, the clouds move, and the sun is revealed.

The good part is that the sun, your true innate happiness, is accessible at all time.

But here's the part nobody explains: how to actually apply this every day.

How to connect with the sun, instead of the clouds..

The Real Key: Letting Go of Resistance

It's one thing to understand that happiness is always shining in the background.

It's another to live from it.

That’s where most people get stuck.

So how do you practice noticing the sun, even when life feels cloudy?

The solution is: acceptance of life as it is.

There are different tools that can help you remove the clouds such as:

• Meditation
• Walking in nature
• Reading a book
• etc..

They're all good and i've tried them all, and still do many of them.

But none of them solved the core problem.

While meditation would be my favorite among them, it can take some time to truly get a hang of it.

It helps you to deepen yourself more and more with the sun, rather than the clouds, but it most probably happen gradually.

Looking back 8 years of inner work, I'll say there's a more important step that most people miss.

Something I postponed for a long time, but was the key to finding lasting happiness.

That is:

learn to let go of resistance…

When you try to change life, thinking you're in control, it creates resistance. Life happens without you control, but you have another view on how it should be, so you try to control it.

For example, you’re stuck in traffic on the way to an important meeting.

Reality is: the cars aren’t moving. Your chest tightens, the anger boils in your blood, hands grip the wheel harder, and your jaw clenches. But your mind insists, "This shouldn’t be happening. I should already be there."

That fight against what is, that's resistance. An endless inner conflict of thoughts that triggers emotions, and vice versa.

Resistance is what clouds your true being, the sun.

Meditation can help you untie that turmoil, a walk could do that too, but most of the time, the clouds come back faster. Unless you deal with the root cause: resistance itself.

Because the truth is, you want the sun to shine even on a stormy day.

What acceptance looks like

To lessen resistance is to accept life as it is.

In practice, this means:

• Stop fighting what’s already here.
• Stop postponing happiness for a future event.
• Return to yourself, even in the storm.

I learned this the hard way. For years, I felt stuck. No app launch. Struggling. Always wanting to be in the vision, earning, traveling, living free. But all that time, I was resisting what was.

We think we control life. We don’t. Life happens. The only problem is our resistance to it, the story we tell ourselves about how it "should" be. That's the clouds.

When shit happens, you can still be happy, if you let go of resistance.

When you say: "Fine. This is what's happening. I accept it as part of my journey." You return to yourself.

Not only does that dissolve resistance, it also moves you forward with more ease. And more importantly: you feel good.

Peace, joy and Flow.

The journey becomes the destination. The seeking stops. Because you feel whole now.

I get it. I want those things too sometimes. But here’s the difference:Wanting them doesn’t mean I sell my current moment for them.

Happiness is not later. It’s here, accessible 24/7.

Try This Next Time You’re in a Storm

Next time you're caught in a storm, the racing thoughts, the knot in your stomach, the restless energy in your body, try this:

1. Pause & Feel

Stop for a moment and ask:

• What am I feeling right now?
• Where do I feel it in my body?
• What story am I telling myself?

2. Welcome Instead of Fight

Notice the want underneath (approval, control, security).

Breathe.

Let the feeling be here without pushing it away.

3. Release

Ask:

• Am I willing to let this go right now?
• Could I let this feeling be here without changing it?

4. Return

Notice what shifts. Ask yourself:

• If I wasn’t triggered, what would I do next?

The fastest way to embody this isn't by reading about it, it's by doing it in real time.

If you’re done living in the Waiting Room, start by naming the pattern that keeps you there.
Discover your pattern (1-min quiz) → https://tally.so/r/3jREoE​

That's all for this week.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, just hit reply and share what came up for you.

All love,

Tomas